Before trying to answer, what do I mean by asking, “Does being picky serve us?” Looking at the thesaurus, other words for picky are choosy, fussy, finicky, fastidious, overparticular, difficult/hard to please, demanding, persnickety.
When I think someone is being too picky, it’s usually about food – she/he is a picky eater. But it can be more than the food. For example, “I can’t go for a walk because my walking partner canceled and I can’t go walking alone.” Or, I can’t go to yoga class because my favorite teacher is out. Have you ever thought, “I want to be with my friends but I don’t like that particular restaurant because I had a bad experience, so I’ll pass on this gathering.”
Some people may think, “I’m not picky, I’m discerning.”
There is a line between accepting the challenge of finding the right balance – the right fit – for you, and simply not doing something because it’s not precisely the way we want. It may not serve us well.
Go for the walk alone; take the yoga class with an unknown teacher; try a class on YouTube; or maybe join your friends at the not-so-great restaurant.
So the question really is, “Is my choosiness preventing me from moving forward and trying something new?”
Pause, have a seat, then decide what works for you and your business.